«There is a stereotype that goes beyond a woman having to be skinny or sexy. There are expectations. Publicity, media, the web.. They should all know they have a responsibility. They have to own up to it. Not all women want to become mothers, not all women have vagina.» – Kenia, 33 years old
«When I was a little girl I used to love the Miss Venezuela beauty contest because I wanted to be a fashion designer. However, I also suffered due to it. It became evident to me that to be «beautiful» you needed cosmetic surgery, have the hair in a certain way, starve and do unspeakable things.
I spent 20 years of my life straightening my hair, 20 years on a diet. I was black, had curly hair, and fat? That was not acceptable. I didn’t fit in, and that hurt.» – Kenia, 33 years old
«I feel like I have set myself free from a lot of things and, on the other hand, I owned up to a lot of others that are mine and will continue to be mine. And that I love them. I have the right to think I am the best, why not? I look at myself and say «There is nothing wrong with me, I am perfect, I am marvelous. But me saying that is frowned upon. It is an insolence.» – Kenia, 33 years old
“I have never been the perfect house wife. However, while being in a relationship, I made the effort of cooking, doing romantic dinners, celebrating each month we were together. I had the idea that I had to be everything for the other person.
But he would get annoyed by how I wore my hair, how I dressed, what shoes I wore, how I talked, if I painted my nails, if I wore any make up. Everything about me annoyed him. He would get mad about anything.
And so I spent 3 years of my life thinking what to do, what to say, when to say it, when it was ok to ask for something, when should I stay quiet… which it was usually the right choice.
I didn’t identified myself as a person in an abusive relationship. For me it was normal. Being in a relationship was that, it was ok, so I never questioned it. I didn’t recognize it as machismo.” – Kenia, 33 years old
«I don’t care if a man has a good job or a good salary, it is not a requirement for me to like him. I pay for my things, I don’t need anyone to provide for me.
What I do think is important is the connection, our compatibility in bed. Sex for me is 50% of the relationship. But saying you care about that is frown upon.
You should not masturbate, watch porn, or have sex with anyone on the first date. You have to be a good girl or no one will love you, no one will take you seriously. The double standard is what bothers me.» – Kenia, 33 years old
Diciembre 2018 ~ Rolleiflex 3.5 F + Fomapan 400